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Don’t Play the Problem’s Game
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Don’t Play the Problem’s Game

This chapter explains how intermittent reinforcement schedules make it extremely difficult to change problematic behaviors, as both the person with the problem and their loved ones become trapped in cycles where occasional rewards keep them engaged despite mostly negative outcomes, much like pigeons that continue pecking levers when only sometimes rewarded with birdseed.

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The Road to Reconciliation describes a path towards healing and potential forgiveness for anyone in a relationship affected by selfishness, violence, abuse, addiction, or betrayal. It guides the reader (or podcast listener) on how to assess the damage done and recognize codependency and vindictiveness, blocking the way from injury to peace. It gives pragmatic advice on how to help you find safety, assert needs, apologize, make amends, and promote change.

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