This chapter advocates for "feeding the person, starving the problem" when dealing with a loved one's destructive behaviors—meaning you should stop enabling the problem (like buying alcohol for someone with a drinking issue) while still meeting the person's basic human needs for food, shelter, safety, dignity, and connection, as true tough love requires starving the fantasy-fed problem without abandoning the person entirely.
The Road to Reconciliation describes a path towards healing and potential forgiveness for anyone in a relationship affected by selfishness, violence, abuse, addiction, or betrayal. It guides the reader (or podcast listener) on how to assess the damage done and recognize codependency and vindictiveness, blocking the way from injury to peace. It gives pragmatic advice on how to help you find safety, assert needs, apologize, make amends, and promote change.
